Both are valid thoughts but they don’t need to determine how to approach the idea touch.
When I became a dance teacher, I recognized the power of touch. The fashion in which I held my student either made him feel at ease or nervous, connected to me or withdrawn. And when I was committed to be in the moment with him, his ability to learn improved! Now that’s powerful stuff! Yet I always maintained a professional distance because I was aware of the HOT zones!
What are the HOT zones?
Those areas where sensuality can turn into seduction which can be interpreted as sexual. Here’s a scale to measure your touch zones.
- If you want to acknowledge his sense of style, compliment while touching something he’s wearing…perhaps his watch, tie or jacket.
- If you want to send a message that you are into him, then touch the extremities of the upper body…such as his arm, wrist or shoulder.
- If you’re dating someone for a while and want to create intimacy then at times touch his thigh when sitting together, especially after he says something funny or endearing.
- When standing next to him, gently caress his lower back to excuse yourself before you go to the powder room.
The secrets to creating more intensity…the length of time you hold your touch will amplify all of these scenarios.