Your body language can affect the way others view you
By Patty |
In my previous post I told you about a new theory to know if I was facing the right man for me. But as I discovered the people I enjoyed spending time with, I also realized that my expressions were sending messages without saying a word.
All of this make sense to me because I’ve recited these techniques many times in my career.
In ballroom dancing, I had to practice eye contact and facial expressions. I had to be clear with where I was looking and for how long because the combination of both elements created different outcomes.
There were moments in my dancing career where I needed to look dominant, engaged, arrogant, energetic, seductive or perhaps even sad.
The physical difference was subtle, however combining the right eye contact with proper intention created the necessary outcome.
Do you think about the image you are portraying?
Are you conscious of the messages you are sending?
The next time you are having a conversation with someone, pay attention to how you listen.
Are you using your eyes to watch, learn and understand?
Are you nodding and smiling to demonstrate consideration?
I know this sounds rehearsed, but none of this works without genuine intention.
As you watch for this in others and pay attention to yourself, you will gain knowledge that will heighten your intuition.
You will begin to recognize if what you are feeling is truthful or not.
To become aware of your own body language, you need to be in tune with the present and start paying attention to what others are doing.
So, for today, start looking out for eye contact and facial expressions from those around you. What do you like and dislike in what you are seeing?
It’s time to understand how your body language can affect the way others view you.
Yours sincerelly,
Patty
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By Patty |
Have you gone on countless dates with one man (or several men!) and been left to wonder why, after all the time you have invested, you can’t seem to find “the one”?
You probably put pressure on yourself to find that man. Every time you go out you’re looking around, “just in case”.
Instead of finding that perfect man, you’re finding a lot of duds. The frustration of it all seems endless…
It’s important to not feel pressured, and also to not let HIM feel the pressure. If you can learn to love yourself first (and show it), you will become that sensuous woman that men are drawn to naturally, rather than forcefully.
Have you ever talked to a family member about what you should do in your love-life? Well, I have…but only on rare occasions. However, this particular occasion turned out to be quite fruitful.
My mom and I were on the telephone and somehow the topic of relationships came up. So, I dug deeper and I wanted to hear how my mom felt about my dad (since their 50 year anniversary was coming soon). I must say, listening to her speak was rather humbling. Every belief she had was quite simple and sound.
I then asked “the” question: “How did you know he was the one?”
As the conversation became more detailed, she instinctively slowed down and changed her tone of voice and I knew I needed to pay close attention.
Her statement was “The eyes and face are the mirror to one’s soul.”
Wow…that was deep!
She went to describe how a person’s integrity can be seen on their face.
When I got off the phone, I stood in front of a mirror and began to examine my face – every freckle and every wrinkle. I looked into my eyes and noticed the size of my pupils and which eye was more dominant.
As I was observing myself, I thought…can I fake integrity? Can I hide what I’m feeling inside?
Every day we are placed in situations where, to be certain of who we are and what we stand for, we must act with integrity.
So I decided to test this theory put forth by my mom.
With every encounter I had, I began to watch for eye contact and facial expressions.
Here’s what I realized about the people I enjoyed spending time with:
1. They have good eye contact; the kind where their eyes are not darting around
2. They know how to smile; the kind of smile that is sincere and can light up a room
3. They are congruent; their expressions and body language are in line with their words.
Now, of course these are not the only traits they have, however these stand out.
Next time I will give you some tips to understand the way you listen.
Yours sincerely,
Patty
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By Patty |
Ever hear the phrase “fake it ’till you make it”?
I often send out tips and “homework” to my readers; things to practice and perfect. But I’ve gotten emails from women who worry that the “moves” will feel artificial.
And I’ve gotta admit, there have been times when I would stand in front of the mirror practicing steps and stances, trying on smiles and gazes…and feeling a little ridiculous.
But you know what? The more I put carried myself as though I was a strong, confident and sexy women…the more I believed it! I changed how I perceived myself from the outside in, and you can too. The trick is to practice over and over until you begin to believe it yourself.
So yes, admittedly, the exercises might feel choreographed, and even awkward at first. I challenge you to push through those moments, to let go and trust in these exercises – and in me — to guide your body to experience something you were meant to feel.
Be compassionate with yourself for making this effort; it’s not unusual to feel very disconnected from your sensual side at first, but remember that you are bridging that gap between your body and your spirit. It will come in time, I promise. Your body will awaken, and you’ll feel your spirit expand.
Sensually yours,
Patty
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By Patty |
My recent vacation to Italy immersed me in exquisite scenery and a culture that embraces sensuality and indulgence like no other.
Italy is captivating and beautiful in and of itself. However, what truly fascinated me was the Italian women. They are so comfortable with their bodies! From their curves, to their hair and even their toe nails, these women accept and love every part of themselves (no matter their shape or size!).
What do women in this country have that you don’t? They know how to work every body part to their advantage. Insecurities have no place in their country.
There is a common acceptance there that men love to look at women and women love to be admired by men. In fact, courtship is a regular topic of discussion at the dinner table.
One night, a large group of us (six couples) gathered for dinner. I must start off by saying it was delicious! There was plenty of seafood, pasta, and wine. And conversation among the group never wavered. In fact, with each glass of wine, our topic of conversation grew more heated!
The peak of our discussion occurred when a 58-year old woman stood up and professed her beliefs on courtship:
“The man must conquer the woman, not the other way around. A woman radiates in her features and as a result men are attracted to the sensual woman. Her sensuality is like a magnet. It allows her to CHOOSE the man SHE wants.”
Wow! This woman declared exactly what I teach!
She is right. A woman’s mold is distinctly different from that of a man’s.
A woman naturally moves differently than a man. There is a distinct sway to her walk. There is a unique swerve to her silhouette. There is a delicate contour to her shoulder. There is a soft appearance to her neck.
As women, we should all embrace, enhance and celebrate our uniqueness.
So can YOU accomplish this? Of course! With body language.
Body language allows you to speak without uttering a word. It is a language that anyone can understand and anyone can perfect.
Sensually yours,
Patty
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