How to perform an enticing strip tease
By Patty |
How often have you felt awkward in your own skin? You turn your back when undressing in front of your lover or partner or you turn away when an attractive man meets your eye. You simply can’t stand to be looked at, yet long to be desired. You’re uncomfortable with your body and pinpoint your flaws daily. You wish you could move seductively and enticingly yet aren’t sure where to even begin!
You wish someone would just teach you sultry and seductive moves without actually being right there in front of you. Is this even possible? To be taught without pressure in your very own living room? As you now know…YES IT IS!
Just to give you a little taste-test, you can click here to view a short clip from erotic dance expert, Vered Haiun, as she demonstrates the basics to getting your man so enthralled by your moves that he can’t sit still to watch the whole thing!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujwgNJbc1rM
This video provides easy tips and techniques that will release the woman within in no time and, as you practice along, will have you loving your body, making you eager to release your new skills in and out of the bedroom!
Whether you make it a surprise or plan it out ahead of time, your man will be pleased either way. You don’t have to have the “perfect” body to perform an enticing strip tease. It’s all in the way you move and the way you feel about yourself.
Sensually yours,
Patty
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By Patty |
As I told you in my previous post I want to continue talking about the best way to get involved into a conversation.
Let me give you a “free” tip by telling you how to position yourself so you can attract that positive attention you deserve.
You can work your body language like a pro, but if you’re not positioned properly, people will notice.
In ballroom dancing, positioning is crucial. I give thought to where I make each move, in front of the segment of crowd that suits me best. Once you’ve found the right spot, it’s one less thing to think about, so you can play full on, with greater results. This is called environmental positioning.
The four key components of environmental positioning are visibility, accessibility, approachability and sincerity.
1 – Visibility
In a well-lit place, sit or stand where you are noticed. While it’s important to work the whole room, get people’s attention by working the room in sections. The people you are trying to attract should be able to take you in from all angles, maybe just not all at once! This might involve changing spots throughout the evening or holding onto that one choice vantage point once you land it.
…A girlfriend and I tried this out one night in a club. We walked in, headed toward the bar and found a spot that had great access to the dance floor and passersby…
2 – Accessibility
Find a place where someone can easily get to you. While the most secluded banquette might seem like a choice spot worth tipping the host for, it might be too inaccessible for a stranger — especially if you’re surrounded by friends.
Position yourself so it’s easy to break away from your gang without the stranger feeling as if he has disrupted a private party, or that he will be grilled by everyone as he tries to talk to you. If you’re with a group or a friend, step away from them every so often to make a circuitous visit to the powder room.
…Once my friend and I sat at the bar, we made sure not to turn our backs on the dance floor. Everyone else at the bar was facing the bartender, but we sat sideways facing each other with our legs crossed towards the dance floor…
3 – Approachability
Keep your body relaxed, whether you’re standing or sitting. Clutching your purse or coat close to your chest might make it appear as though you are uncomfortable or ready to leave.
Don’t be deeply engrossed in a serious dialogue for minutes on end with your friends. Keep the banter light so that you’re laughing frequently! A gentleman wouldn’t want to interrupt a serious thinker mid-conversation. Allow for lulls where you look around, clearly checking things out.
This allows you to appear approachable to men.
Put your best face forward. That means not covering it up with your hands, sunglasses or floppy hat. And of course, smile!
In addition ladies, when circulating around a room, do chat with the women first to build a base of friends and allies. Who knows, they might turn out to know the guy you’re interested in. Or they might offer assistance when you need a safety pin later in the rest room. Joke a little and be generous with the compliments so as to defuse all cattiness and competitiveness. Eventually work men into the mix, chatting them up as you flit about.
When talking freely with both genders, use a combination of different sensual gestures, such as direct eye contact, smiling, laughing and touching (extremities only). The effect is highly alluring — men will notice and be fascinated by a confident woman who relishes in being sensual, being desired and having fun with her present situation!
…We positioned ourselves so anyone could step in and order a drink. When women tried to order, we took their order and gave it to the bartender. Then other women began to do the same, and soon we had a flood of women placing orders through us. Men began to notice, and they started to prevail upon our good graces as well. By the end of the evening, we had made friends with men, women and couples… not to mention the added bonus of getting free drinks from the bartender for helping with the overflow of his business…
4) Sincerity
Be open, patient and earnest with the new people you meet.
Don’t approach someone you’ve just met like you’re holding an interview; pummeling him with questions about a job, schooling, etc. Your interactions are not about efficiency. They ought to be rooted in sincerity, being open to wherever the moment and dialogue takes you both. Don’t let any negative experience take away from your innocent and playful outlook towards men… Have fun without being pretentious.
Remember how much courage it takes for a man to ask a woman to dance or even just to chat. So make it easy for him to have the opportunity to make the request. A man must be reassured that you’re not going to embarrass him by rejecting him rudely in front of other people.
During the research for my book, I interviewed many men and the prevailing complaint was women’s indifference and aloofness toward any approach they made. I believe that as long as men are respectful, women should be welcoming. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
…Because men noticed that we were light-hearted, friendly and outgoing, they were not uncomfortable in approaching us sitting at the bar. Men tried out some wacky lines on us that night. But we’d laugh with them at first, before using our body language (turning away, putting barriers between us, avoiding long eye contact) to show that we weren’t interested. We did the opposite when we enjoyed their company. A dance instructor for 15 years, I know how nervous men get about asking a woman to dance. And I believe that every man should have a shot at a dance if he asks with courtesy and respect…
Once you’ve positioned yourself for a comfortable approach, it’s time to move onto the more advanced secrets of sensuality.
Yours sincerely,
Patty
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By Patty |
Have you ever walked into the middle of a party and suddenly felt naked?
No matter how tight you wrap your sweater around you, you still feel exposed. Everyone seems to have found their niche group and is in deep conversation. You look around and wonder where you fit in. You feel your stomach gather in knots and you suddenly have visions of 5th grade when none of the other kids would choose you to be on their softball team. You feel alone and can’t seem the find the right words to begin a conversation with anyone.
When you find yourself in this situation, you have to take a deep breath and remember that you are a confident, beautiful women who is as interesting and worthy of attention as anybody else! The way to become comfortable enough to strike up conversations with strangers is by first learning how to LISTEN before you speak.
Listen to the conversation already in progress and find the perfect spot for you to enter into the discussion. If someone is discussing the current surge in housing prices and you are thinking about selling your home in the next year, tell them that! If you don’t understand what a group is discussing, be honest and tell them you’re curious to know more about their discussion because it sounds interesting. It’s ok to admit when you don’t understand something. I do this myself when I speak with customers in my dance studio. If I find we’re talking about a subject I know very little about, I admit to lacking knowledge in that area and ask for clarification.
Learning how to join in on a conversation is important to creating a presence. But this is only the beginning.
I will continue talking about this topic in my next post.
Sensually yours,
Patty
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By Patty |
Do you find yourself avoiding eye contact when you walk into a room?
Perhaps you’re so worried about what other people think of you…of your clothes, your body or your personality…that you’d rather sit at home on a Saturday night, eating ice cream and watching your favorite chick flick than go out into the world and be “judged”.
Are you finding yourself worrying about how you look? Perhaps you feel competitive with other women looks. Well know this; men don’t love us because of the way we look.
In fact, they aren’t even ATTRACTED to us because of the way we “look”!
You have this longing feeling to feel loved. You see couples walking happily hand in hand and wish for the day you could have that. Maybe you see a group of girls chatting happily at a coffee shop and wonder why you don’t have a solid friendship like that. The loneliness you’re feeling is so overwhelming, you give up that exercise program you started last week because why does it matter if you can’t show off your new form? You’ve given up on that diet and stopped practicing positive thinking…you want love yourself and be loved back but it seems so out of reach.
Guess what?
Just thinking of yourself as sexy increases your sexual appeal and creates positive thinking…In an instant!
It’s important to work on the inside appeal before taking it outside. Staying indoors won’t help with your magnetic appeal but working on your inner beauty naturally draws people to you.
You know that woman who walks into a room and all eyes are on her. You wonder, is it her clothes? Her hair? Or is it her smile? You want to be that woman but can’t pinpoint exactly how. The truth is it’s self-appreciation. When you love yourself, it shows in the way you talk, the way you dress and the way you walk.
Ohhhh, I can’t stress this enough: It’s in the way you walk.
Confident people are never in a hurry. They are not forceful, nervous or jumpy. They are stable, centered and composed.
–Be aware of how you walk. Even when you are on a deadline, achieve your goal with ease and grace.
Make men aware of the powerful sensuality that emanates from your lower body as you take each step.
From the moment I would start walking out onto a dance floor, for example, the judges were already making an assessment of how I would dance. That’s why I had to work on my entrance. Even the “down time” between dances is important. I had to remain sensual and confident in the way I carried myself at all times.
It’s the same with everyday life. Men will assess your sensuality by how you walk. While they are sure to notice how you approach them, the real scrutiny often comes on your caboose as you saunter off to the powder room. So don’t rush it — work it. You want him to watch you for as long as possible.
In general, people tend to lean forward and walk with their head and chest ahead of their body.
–Try this instead…
When walking forward, lead from the hips! It should feel like your weight is on your heels. Imagine a strong wind blowing against your lower back. That’s where your power lies, where your energy should be. I call this “ass power.” With every step I take, my buttocks kick in. You can actually hear the strength of your step as your feet make contact with the floor.
Steer clear of the common mistakes women make when walking to achieve your most sexy and sultry walk:
–Be sure not to swing your arms too much!
Your arms sway naturally when you allow your hips to lead but don’t sway them too much. Instead, allow for smooth and effortless movement. With every step you take, allow yourself to settle into each hip slowly, deliberately and calmly. Put your “back power” into good use. With every step taken, your trapezius muscles should kick in. When you step with the left leg, the left trapezius muscle squeezes. Repeat the process with the right side. Move with purpose, yet take your time so that you always look poised and in control.
–Be conscious about how far apart your legs are when walking.
Get used to rubbing your inner thighs together when you walk, but only slightly. Pretend that you’re wearing a girdle or tight skirt to reduce the width and length of your steps. But do this as naturally as possible, and avoid crossing one leg in front of the other. We’re not trying to copy the models on the runways!
–Keep your eyes from wandering too much.
Focus on who you’re approaching, whether it’s one person or several people. Don’t let your chin drop! Be cool, relaxed and smile, with your eyes focused.
Learning how to walk “the walk” takes practice but you certainly have it in you to perfect it%!
The Walk is only the beginning of your journey…
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