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How to join in on a discussion and create a presence
By Patty |
Have you ever walked into the middle of a party and suddenly felt naked?
No matter how tight you wrap your sweater around you, you still feel exposed. Everyone seems to have found their niche group and is in deep conversation. You look around and wonder where you fit in. You feel your stomach gather in knots and you suddenly have visions of 5th grade when none of the other kids would choose you to be on their softball team. You feel alone and can’t seem the find the right words to begin a conversation with anyone.
When you find yourself in this situation, you have to take a deep breath and remember that you are a confident, beautiful women who is as interesting and worthy of attention as anybody else! The way to become comfortable enough to strike up conversations with strangers is by first learning how to LISTEN before you speak.
Listen to the conversation already in progress and find the perfect spot for you to enter into the discussion. If someone is discussing the current surge in housing prices and you are thinking about selling your home in the next year, tell them that! If you don’t understand what a group is discussing, be honest and tell them you’re curious to know more about their discussion because it sounds interesting. It’s ok to admit when you don’t understand something. I do this myself when I speak with customers in my dance studio. If I find we’re talking about a subject I know very little about, I admit to lacking knowledge in that area and ask for clarification.
Learning how to join in on a conversation is important to creating a presence. But this is only the beginning.
I will continue talking about this topic in my next post.
Sensually yours,
Patty
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