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Be aware of how you walk
By Patty |
Do you find yourself avoiding eye contact when you walk into a room?
Perhaps you’re so worried about what other people think of you…of your clothes, your body or your personality…that you’d rather sit at home on a Saturday night, eating ice cream and watching your favorite chick flick than go out into the world and be “judged”.
Are you finding yourself worrying about how you look? Perhaps you feel competitive with other women looks. Well know this; men don’t love us because of the way we look.
In fact, they aren’t even ATTRACTED to us because of the way we “look”!
You have this longing feeling to feel loved. You see couples walking happily hand in hand and wish for the day you could have that. Maybe you see a group of girls chatting happily at a coffee shop and wonder why you don’t have a solid friendship like that. The loneliness you’re feeling is so overwhelming, you give up that exercise program you started last week because why does it matter if you can’t show off your new form? You’ve given up on that diet and stopped practicing positive thinking…you want love yourself and be loved back but it seems so out of reach.
Guess what?
Just thinking of yourself as sexy increases your sexual appeal and creates positive thinking…In an instant!
It’s important to work on the inside appeal before taking it outside. Staying indoors won’t help with your magnetic appeal but working on your inner beauty naturally draws people to you.
You know that woman who walks into a room and all eyes are on her. You wonder, is it her clothes? Her hair? Or is it her smile? You want to be that woman but can’t pinpoint exactly how. The truth is it’s self-appreciation. When you love yourself, it shows in the way you talk, the way you dress and the way you walk.
Ohhhh, I can’t stress this enough: It’s in the way you walk.
Confident people are never in a hurry. They are not forceful, nervous or jumpy. They are stable, centered and composed.
–Be aware of how you walk. Even when you are on a deadline, achieve your goal with ease and grace.
Make men aware of the powerful sensuality that emanates from your lower body as you take each step.
From the moment I would start walking out onto a dance floor, for example, the judges were already making an assessment of how I would dance. That’s why I had to work on my entrance. Even the “down time” between dances is important. I had to remain sensual and confident in the way I carried myself at all times.
It’s the same with everyday life. Men will assess your sensuality by how you walk. While they are sure to notice how you approach them, the real scrutiny often comes on your caboose as you saunter off to the powder room. So don’t rush it — work it. You want him to watch you for as long as possible.
In general, people tend to lean forward and walk with their head and chest ahead of their body.
–Try this instead…
When walking forward, lead from the hips! It should feel like your weight is on your heels. Imagine a strong wind blowing against your lower back. That’s where your power lies, where your energy should be. I call this “ass power.” With every step I take, my buttocks kick in. You can actually hear the strength of your step as your feet make contact with the floor.
Steer clear of the common mistakes women make when walking to achieve your most sexy and sultry walk:
–Be sure not to swing your arms too much!
Your arms sway naturally when you allow your hips to lead but don’t sway them too much. Instead, allow for smooth and effortless movement. With every step you take, allow yourself to settle into each hip slowly, deliberately and calmly. Put your “back power” into good use. With every step taken, your trapezius muscles should kick in. When you step with the left leg, the left trapezius muscle squeezes. Repeat the process with the right side. Move with purpose, yet take your time so that you always look poised and in control.
–Be conscious about how far apart your legs are when walking.
Get used to rubbing your inner thighs together when you walk, but only slightly. Pretend that you’re wearing a girdle or tight skirt to reduce the width and length of your steps. But do this as naturally as possible, and avoid crossing one leg in front of the other. We’re not trying to copy the models on the runways!
–Keep your eyes from wandering too much.
Focus on who you’re approaching, whether it’s one person or several people. Don’t let your chin drop! Be cool, relaxed and smile, with your eyes focused.
Learning how to walk “the walk” takes practice but you certainly have it in you to perfect it%!
The Walk is only the beginning of your journey…
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October 7th, 2010 at 3:29 pm
I love your blog! Thank you so much for these wonderful tips. I was always so self conscious about the way I walk and thought that I was doing something wrong.
My favorite thing that you said is “Confident people are never in a hurry. They are not forceful, nervous or jumpy. They are stable, centered and composed.” This is so true! I feel like I am always in a hurry for no reason. I need to slow down. Thank you so much!