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The secret to improving sensuality
By Patty |
Have you ever felt awkward trying to seduce a man? You go to approach a man only to trip on a step? Or you go to touch a man’s arm only to accidentally touch his plate of food!
Sometimes, the art of seduction doesn’t seem to come naturally and we think it’s time to just give up and let the women who are seemingly natural born seductresses take the lead…
Seriously? I have much more faith in you than that. I KNOW all women have it in them to be sensual.
I recently received a question from a reader. I am sharing it with you because it comes up a lot in many seminars I speak at.
>>>Question from a reader.
Hi Patty,
I want to know how a woman would be able to improve upon the art of seduction through body language when it’s not a natural talent of hers? How may it become like “a second skin” instead of coming off rehearsed and unnatural?
Regards,
Cynthia
>>>My response.
This is a great question. Many women feel the same way. In fact, lots of women think that sensuality came natural to me. Somehow they believe that I was born with it being of Italian origin and living in a French city and all.
All of this is true. I am living in a liberal society and surrounded by many flagrant women that love their bodies.
But I was definitely not born with the same outlook.
As a young woman, I was always considered the nerd in school. I got the good grades, always helped the teachers when they needed it and joined many clubs…yes, even the Trivial Pursuit Club…although my membership didn’t last long…this was only for the true nerds, not “a wanna-be” like myself.
During my last year of high school, I was voted the school clown. Not the queen, not even the duchess…the CLOWN!
I hope you have a clearer picture on how I did NOT ooze sensuality at a young age.
So what is the secret to improving sensuality? The secret is….PRACTICE!
Is this too simple of an answer?
Even when I started in the ballroom dancing business, I could not look people in the eyes when I taught them. I felt like I was exposing my inner truth…my insecurities.
In the beginning, everything felt choreographed and corny even artificial. However, in pushing through these awkward feelings I was able to tap into my true essence. The essence that understands that my physical senses, emotional senses and spirit are all different, yet all connected.
It takes much practice to stand in your power. It takes a lot of practice to acknowledge your truth.
So let me impress upon you how I had to fake it on many, many, many occasions. I had to pretend to be a champion on the dance floor when the judges were dissecting my dancing abilities…and I *became* one.
So, now it is time for you to begin practicing. As I said before I have faith in you.
Sensually yours,
Patty
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