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What sensuality really means?

By Patty |

This past year has been particularly wonderful for me as I was lucky to spend many days entertaining people that are most special to me…it was my way to express love and appreciation towards them.

I got into my body, my mind and spirit even more than usual. I allowed each encounter to be a full body experience. I mean this in more of a sensual manner rather than sexual.

I’m sure you’re wondering what the heck I’m trying to say!

Well let’s start with a question:

What does sensuality mean to you?

If we want to define the word sensuality, it is described in the dictionary as “the gratification of the senses or the indulgence of appetite”.

Are we always willing and open to let go and allow such enjoyment?

We often spend the day thinking, evaluating even scrutinizing everything and everyone around us. There are times when this is necessary and there are times to shut it off and just letting yourself FEEL.  However, the task of shutting it off is not so easy because guilt often accompanies such thoughts.

Let’s look at the meaning of guilt…”having committed a breach of conduct; violating law and involving a penalty”. Oooh…sounds severe doesn’t it?

As a woman, I’ve often struggled with the feeling of guilt…what is appropriate or inappropriate behavior? As a ballroom dancer, I’ve also struggled with what looks vulgar or what looks apprehensive when I dance. As a business woman, I’ve often felt guilty when I’m not working overtime on a project. To intensify matters, my strict Italian upbringing trained me to follow the rules…because guilt was always lurking.

I can accept that certain rules are meant for our safety and well-being…however, many of us tend to get too caught up in them, consequently inhibiting ourselves from discovering who we really are.

Well, all I can say is taking chances, making mistakes and appreciating life lessons unquestionably get me closer to being in touch with who I am and yearn to be. As a result, I have become less judgmental with myself by allowing compassion towards my behavior and make room to grow…sensually.

I have a new-found respect for sensuality. The only way I can indulge is being in the present moment…and those moments can last as long or as short as I need them to be. What I have uncovered for myself is a fresh outlook and renewed drive to pursue my purpose.

Can sensuality be the ultimate experience of giving to yourself, with no expectations except the sheer expression of what you feel at that particular moment? And in turn, have a renewed sense of being?

We need to learn how to put ourselves in an environment where we feel safe to let go and allow expression to flow through us. I realize that’s not easy to do. I have discovered taking charge and creating the conditions I need has guided me to cultivate more of what I long for.

I call it “making love to yourself”.

Let´s take a further look at this concept in my next post. I invite you to read it.

Sensually yours,

Patty

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  1. Making love to yourself | Sensually Speaking Says:
    July 30th, 2010 at 11:16 am

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