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Looking for a man? Watch for eye contact and facial expressions

By Patty |

Have you gone on countless dates with one man (or several men!) and been left to wonder why, after all the time you have invested, you can’t seem to find “the one”?

You probably put pressure on yourself to find that man. Every time you go out you’re looking around, “just in case”.

Instead of finding that perfect man, you’re finding a lot of duds. The frustration of it all seems endless…

It’s important to not feel pressured, and also to not let HIM feel the pressure. If you can learn to love yourself first (and show it), you will become that sensuous woman that men are drawn to naturally, rather than forcefully.

Have you ever talked to a family member about what you should do in your love-life?  Well, I have…but only on rare occasions. However, this particular occasion turned out to be quite fruitful.

My mom and I were on the telephone and somehow the topic of relationships came up. So, I dug deeper and I wanted to hear how my mom felt about my dad (since their 50 year anniversary was coming soon).  I must say, listening to her speak was rather humbling. Every belief she had was quite simple and sound.

I then asked “the” question: “How did you know he was the one?”

As the conversation became more detailed, she instinctively slowed down and changed her tone of voice and I knew I needed to pay close attention.

Her statement was “The eyes and face are the mirror to one’s soul.”

Wow…that was deep!

She went to describe how a person’s integrity can be seen on their face.

When I got off the phone, I stood in front of a mirror and began to examine my face – every freckle and every wrinkle. I looked into my eyes and noticed the size of my pupils and which eye was more dominant.

As I was observing myself, I thought…can I fake integrity? Can I hide what I’m feeling inside?

Every day we are placed in situations where, to be certain of who we are and what we stand for, we must act with integrity.

So I decided to test this theory put forth by my mom.

With every encounter I had, I began to watch for eye contact and facial expressions.

Here’s what I realized about the people I enjoyed spending time with:

1. They have good eye contact; the kind where their eyes are not darting around

2. They know how to smile; the kind of smile that is sincere and can light up a room

3. They are congruent; their expressions and body language are in line with their words.

Now, of course these are not the only traits they have, however these stand out.

Next time I will give you some tips to understand the way you listen.

Yours sincerely,

Patty

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  1. Your body language can affect the way others view you | Sensually Speaking Says:
    July 23rd, 2010 at 11:14 am

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