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First Steps to Being Open: Coffee Shop Seduction Tricks
By Patty |
Let me start by thanking everyone who read my first blog about my trip to Argentina. I received many responses from women that sent wonderful encouraging words. I feel excited to be back online with such great support!
Today’s blog is the first step to being open.
As I have been learning to accept myself, I’ve realized the importance to live life with an open heart. This has prompted me to shed one layer at a time of fear, judgment and guilt and in return I am living a more grateful existence. This has not come with ease, in fact it continues to fester in my brain because my biggest difficulty is balancing my left brain thinking of past equals future to right brain thinking of being in the present. To be able to indulge in the senses when there are daily pressures to achieve goals, meet deadlines and attend to needs of others feeds my logical mind.
So how do I feed my creative and emotional mind?
Well, one way has been turning daily rituals into situations where I can radiate! And I do this through my physical body. You see, being aware of my body language and the signals that is sends has helped me to embrace my body as a temple. I feel that the body and the spirit are directly linked and working on both helps you illuminate your beacon.
Here’s an example of a daily ritual…getting my morning coffee.
It starts with the moment I step out of my car. I open the door and deliberately place one leg out at a time making sure the effort of my exit is done gracefully. BTW, to turn up the volume, arch your back a little on the way up to standing position.
Now comes the all important walk to the coffee shop. I do my sultry walk (as described in my ebook). In a nutshell, lead from my hips (don’t lean forward from my chest), press my shoulder blades down (which automatically lifts my chest), be aware of the width and length of my stride (as if I am wearing a tight skirt that prevents me from keeping my legs too wide apart) and of course keep my eyes up.
As I wait in line at the coffee shop, I stand with sensual assurance (in others words 3rd feet position ballet, one knee bent while settling into my standing hip). Once I order the coffee, I smile, give direct eye contact, and end with a tilt on my head when I say “Thank you”.
I repeat the same process on the way back to my car…never know who is watching.
This may sound silly to some of you, but I truly believe that sensuality needs to felt from the inside out…however learned from the outside in.
If you can imagine and adopt the body language of the personality you want, you would be perceived as having that personality. You can choose to keep a cool, confident and sensual exterior. This doesn’t mean you ignore issues that make you feel shy and apprehensive, but by working on your outward appearance, you will gain a sense of confidence that generates an outward support system, nourishing you to become more secure.
Being sensual is a way of caring for all of you–the way you look, how you act and handle yourself, even how you feed your body…a way of embracing your needs both physically and emotionally. It is important to pay attention to your body because it is directly linked to your spirit and it knows the truth. I want you to think of the exercises that are in my book as a bridge to your spirit, they are tools to take care of yourself and your body.
I would love to have feedback from all of the women that tried the coffee shop scenario. Remember that it may take several tries (you now the saying “Rome was not built in a day”). Pay attention to the responses you might get from passers by. I appreciate even a smile…it makes me feel like I made a difference in someone’s day by making them smile.
Have a fun and sensual day!
Topics: Sensual | 5 Comments »
September 23rd, 2008 at 6:11 pm
If only more women would make that effort on their daily rituals! I love that “tilt of the head” and I’m going to make it a part of me!
October 7th, 2008 at 6:12 pm
I LOVE it! Never, EVER have I given thought about such small things..until now. What a difference! Even if nobody sees, I feel beautiful all lover.
I’ve always tilted my head when saying “Thank you” but thought it appeared weak, like a puppy that doesn’t know what something is, and thus tried to control it. I probably read or heard it from a feminist.
It’s feels good to proudly be ALL FEMALE. And much more powerful.
March 5th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
hi i love your doin step of coffee shop i’m a student came from aklan
April 6th, 2009 at 1:50 pm
For real, that head tilting is hot.
Sensual and ALL FEMALE!
October 7th, 2010 at 12:30 am
I never thought about the head tilt. It is genius! Your confidence and sensuality is radiating through the pictures. You look HOT! This is one of my favorite posts I have read on your blog. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us!