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“Mirroring”, a technique to get his attention

By Patty |

As I said before in this blog I will teach you a technique called “mirroring”.

When I introduced this method I said that it works because, subconsciously, we all seek out people who are versions of ourselves.

Let´s go deeper in this technique. There are two types of mirroring:

1)  Mirroring his movement.

2)  Enticing him to follow your lead. For example, leaning forward when you want him closer or touching him when you want to be touched.

Although a man is traditionally thought to take the lead, women should be tempting the man to follow. Depending on the roles we’re playing, there are times when a woman should be dominant, leading her man to the place where she wants him to be. Once there, she might revert to letting him be in charge in that place; tantalizing his emotions and making him want more.

Teaching ballroom dancing has led me to develop a knack for mirroring my students. I will pick up their accent, their smile, their gestures… all to make them feel more at ease.

Be aware of your emotions. Try to match the energy level and disposition of your partner in the moment. Is he dynamic or calm? Stimulating or tranquil? Whatever energy he gives off, create the same essence in the energy you give back.

Next time you’re with a man, try mirroring the following:

- Head tilts, nods, facial expressions;

- Tone of voice, volume, speech, rhythm of voice;

- The angle of his body;

- How he holds his wine glass;

- How his arms are outstretched towards you;

- How he touches himself;

- How much he leans into you;

- Whether he exposes his wrists (If so, expose yours to show openness).

How long should you play copycat? The ideal time frame is five to 50 seconds after he has changed position, so as not to look too deliberate. Be attentive and notice if he is in agreement with you.

You can also take control and subtly lead him into creating rapport with you. Tilt your head first, lean into him first, move your wine glass out of the way so there is no barrier.

See if he follows suit.

Although this technique is very effective, it’s important not to become preoccupied with copying every move he makes.

Mirroring is simply another way to be attentive to the man.

Watch, listen and connect with him. If he’s making a gesture or movement that might feel good for you, that may be an appropriate opportunity to mirror.

Pay attention to his subtleties then let your actions convey more than words ever could.

Show him that you are following him, working from the same plan… You may just end up at the same place.

Have fun with mirroring, and stay tuned for more tips!

Sensually yours,

Patty Contenta

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2 Responses to ““Mirroring”, a technique to get his attention”

  1. arak seepoom Says:
    December 10th, 2011 at 6:18 pm

    what if sticks his finger in his ear, would also recommend mirroring that too?

  2. Patty Says:
    January 9th, 2012 at 7:50 pm

    Uuuhh…nope! There are limits to mirroring ;)

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