As you may have guessed with my past email, I truly enjoyed my vacation in France! And I wanted to take this time to share with you WHY I loved it so much.
I sensed that a big part of it was because it felt like HOME, as in the French culture, French fashion and French language. Even though I am of Italian heritage and went to a primarily English school, I grew up in Montreal, which means a French environment.
While Montreal is not at all St. Remy or Paris, it still feels, as you drive from New York City up north toward the border (which I do monthly), that you're being transported to another continent. More and more signs are in French.
You enter the wilderness, cross over the Canadian border, and soon you're transported to a city unlike anything you've seen in North America.
I was reflecting upon my week in the French Riviera. I went into this trip feeling unprepared, uncertain and I honestly felt like it was the worst time to go on vacation.
I had just finished a day of coaching in North Carolina, rushed off to Raleigh airport with a carry on and backpack NOT truly ready for this adventure. All I could think about was the deadlines for the projects I am working on and what once seemed so far away, was around the corner!
Then a wave of guilt swept over my entire being. I felt selfish for taking time to “play”, instead of choosing to get the work done sooner.
Over the last few months, thoughts of feminism, sexiness and sexual objectification have been infiltrating my mind. When Beyonce performed on stage at the Video Music Awards in 2014 wearing sexy outfits, and so called sexually objectifying herself with bright lights behind her stating “FEMINIST”, the thought “Is this a paradox?” came up for me.
As a woman who delivers messages about how femininity and sensuality can help women feel confident, I was faced with my own paradoxical fears of both wanting to be desired as a beautiful woman who allows herself to turn up her sexual energy (in the right context) and being respected for my heart and mind while running several businesses.
About 2 years ago, I was one of the panelists in the Great Love Debate here in Montreal. I dealt mostly with the topic of being approachable by exuding femininity. And when my colleague, Frank Kermit, spoke about boundaries, the room went silent. It was evident that everyone needed to learn how to navigate in this new era of dating where there’s an abundance of choice. Choice in cell phones, choice in cars and choice in partners.
Understanding the importance of having needs and maintaining my boundaries has probably been my biggest lesson. A lesson that I must admit continues to challenge me the most.
This past week I coached a woman whom I will name “Joan” (in order to respect her privacy). She’s 81 and a Holocaust survivor.
Joan was 5 years old when she was put into a concentration camp with her parents where they remained for 7 years.
During that time, her mom and dad were brutally amputated in the legs, leaving Joan to deal with the harsh reality of taking care of her parents at a young age. From that day forward, Joan sacrificed her independence and her needs for the welfare of her family...
When we were children, the word “no” gave us strength because it established our autonomy. As we got older, the word “no” put fear in our mind because feelings of inadequacy and self-blame were attached to this word.
And for some, the anticipation of rejection is enough to stop us dead in our tracks and never take chances with our career, our social life or with our relationships.
Leading a balanced life is a constant challenge. In order to move through the day-to-day life, a woman will constantly be faced with the decision of what masculine and feminine traits she could best apply at any moment in her life in order to have a better experience.
My career as a traveling dance consultant takes me to many cities across the country. And when coaching men and women to dance together in a harmonious fashion, there’s an intricate exchange both verbally and non-verbally that happens when trying to communicate to each other what they need in order to move in unison.
This is where knowing the difference between assertive and aggressive communication becomes apparent.
In my last email I shared how I needed to adopt a new mindset, which encouraged my curiosity towards dialing up my sexual energy.
This mindset needed to appear in my day-to-day living, not just in the bedroom.
I say this because in order to grasp any new way of being, one needs to gently bring in new concepts in order for the fixed mindset (a.k.a. critical wall/negative voice) to drop its walls and allow for new possibilities to enter your being.
A conscious woman has an inner voice always in search of meaning and purpose. During this quest, she discovers her values regarding career, relationships and spirituality….no different than a conscious man.
This all adds up to a restless craving to realize your potential, which peaks as you approach each decade of your life.Yet the questions shift as the stages progress.
Yes, angels ARE everywhere especially when you consider they can show up in the human form!
This past weekend, I returned home to Montreal, a city that can be described like...
“a French lover… the affair is always energetic, romantic, far too quick and leaves me wanting more”.
I went straight to the world-renowned Montreal Jazz Festival, a fabulous outdoor venue where musicians and singers perform to thousands of people who are anxiously awaiting for their artistic soul to be expressed.
Over the next couple months I’ll be taking you on an adventure, a discussion on mindset since it’s directly related to your attitude and your beliefs.
So be sure to check your inbox for the emails that I’ll be sending twice a week.
“Today, you have the opportunity to transcend from a disempowered mindset of existence to an empowered reality of purpose-driven living. Today is a new day that has been handed to you for shaping. You have the tools, now get out there and create a masterpiece.”